For my birthday last year, my sister got me a lavender mug that says on one side "Blessings are Everywhere," and on the other "The Universe Knows." I really should be drinking from this mug every morning... literally and figuratively!
I was talking with a friend last week about how I have a hard time just being myself. There are a lot of things I've internalized that tell me that I'm not "allowed" to be the carefree, silly, small-pleasures-loving woman that I am. I've gotten much better at being myself and I've stopped apologizing to everyone all the time for who I am, but some days it's still a struggle.
Right after this conversation I sat down to watch Le fabuleux destin d'Amélie Poulain with the SO. It had been a really, really long time since I'd seen it (possibly just after it had come out? so we're talking 10+ years). I didn't remember much (I'm pretty sure I didn't understand it very well the first time around) besides the fact that the movie was beautiful to look at. We put it on because SO had never seen it at all and we felt like watching a movie, which we've rarely done lately.
I'm not here to summarize or say anything about the film besides this: it was just a perfectly timed thing. Watching Amelie at this particular point in my life, and especially right after that conversation with my friend, seemed like a message from the universe. You are on the right track. You should be yourself and indulge in the things that make you happy. And there is nothing on earth wrong with picking up stones to keep in your pockets for skipping (or putting around the house on windowsills).
I like to believe there is something larger than me, guiding my life. It's not god, per se. Maybe it's just some hyper-aware subconscious sense that allows me to interpret the events of my life and draw meaning from them. I'd be okay if it were only that, because hot damn if that wouldn't be a miracle of science and the almost magical way our brains function. But I often wonder if it's not a bit more.
Anyhow, just walking around today secure in the knowledge that I am on the right path and that it is 100% okay for me to be myself since I'm pretty sure no one else could do the job.
Happy day, folks!
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Friday, April 20, 2012
Thursday, March 8, 2012
Crowding Out
I love this notion of "crowing out" the bad with all the things in my life that are amazing. I wonder and worry a little about the long-term psychological ramifications of such thinking, but as a short-term fix I can't complain. And in this vein, and from a blog post that made it's way into my email this morning, I want to talk about deserving.
What do I feel like I deserve?
Often, nothing. That would be the usual answer. Or rather, it would be the old-self answer, the answer that you'd hear me give in my moments of deepest angst and despair (of which there have been plenty, more than enough). But lately - more and more - I am coming to realize that, simply by being here and breathing and sharing this space with every other being on the planet, that I do deserve to feel good. To be happy. Because otherwise, what on earth is the point?
I really liked this list at the end of the aforementioned blog post, so I'm reposting it here (without permission).
I am worthy of my desires.
I was born free.
I am worthy of love and respect.
I am lovable.
I deserve:
What do I feel like I deserve?
Often, nothing. That would be the usual answer. Or rather, it would be the old-self answer, the answer that you'd hear me give in my moments of deepest angst and despair (of which there have been plenty, more than enough). But lately - more and more - I am coming to realize that, simply by being here and breathing and sharing this space with every other being on the planet, that I do deserve to feel good. To be happy. Because otherwise, what on earth is the point?
I really liked this list at the end of the aforementioned blog post, so I'm reposting it here (without permission).
I am worthy of my desires.
I was born free.
I am worthy of love and respect.
I am lovable.
I deserve:
- eye contact
- smiles in the morning
- food made with pure intention
- clean drinking water, fresh air
- Hello, Please, Thank you.
- time to think about it
- a chance to show them what I'm made of
- a second chance
- an education
- health care, including dental
- multiple orgasms (and how!)
- weekends and the summer off
- eight hours of sleep
- play before work
- to change my mind
- to say no
- to say yes
- to be seen
- to be loved for what is seen.
I deserve all this just because I showed up for myself today.
And right now, I also deserve a taco. Because I want one, and there is a fabulous taqueria across the street from my school.
Tacoooooooo!
(Oh! P.S. - Happy International Women's Day! ^__^)
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Praticing Gratitude
I know this is sort of a tired subject as I've seen it flying around since the week before Thanksgiving, but... gratitude.
I started "practicing gratitude" in November while I was doing a cleanse with my nutritionist. She's into holistic work, so part of the cleanse was cleansing negative attitudes or behaviors. I'm a creature of habit, habit, habit, and the behaviors, well, they're not completely overturned (it will take years to get rid of the habits I don't like, but I'm working on it). But I have found myself to be in a profoundly better mood these days than I have been in a long, long time. There are a number of factors that add to the feeling, but I think a huge part of it is that I've stopped looking at what I don't have.
I think we're sort of programmed to think about all of the things we don't have - clearer skin, shinier hair, flatter stomachs, faster cars, bigger houses, fairy-tale romances - and then spend tons of our hard-earned cash on stuff that might bring us closer to the these things. I can't think of a single marketing campaign that tells us to be satisfied with what we already have and who we are. But I think that telling ourselves every day what we like about who we are and what we have crowds out all of the negative messages we are bombarded with that tell us to constantly seek satisfaction elsewhere.
I have a job that I absolutely fucking love. Is it the "dream job"? No. But it is a job that gives me enough money to pay my bills and still have enough to do something nice for myself or for friends. And it's satisfying to my soul in a way that no other job I've had has been.
I live in a beautiful apartment that is starting to really feel like home. Is it a gigantic mansion with fifteen bedrooms, six baths and a tennis court? No. But it is cozy, and warm, and brightly painted, and full of books and music and crafting and laughter. And good cooking.
I am healthy, and finally have health insurance. Could I be healthier? Sure. I could probably have better health insurance, too, but for now, it is enough that I can go to the doctor if I need to (or want to!), and I am working on eating better and exercising more.
I have a family that supports me and all of my wacky shit. Are we supremely dysfunctional? Definitely. But who's family isn't, these days? All I need to know is that if shit goes down, my family will help me rebuild.
I am crafting every day. Do I get to spend as much time as I'd like crafting? No. But I am making time to do it every single day, which is a huge improvement over what I was doing before - a whole lot of nothing.
I have friends I love spending time with. Do I see them as often as I'd like? No. Some are too far away and some I've slowly lost touch with, but I'm making more of an effort to keep ties with the people who lift me up and whose company I truly enjoy. I love each and every one of them and I'm hugely glad that they are in my life.
I have a partner who is willing to listen when I speak, hold me when I cry, laugh with me at a stupid joke, take me on vacations, and cook amazing meals at night when I'm too tired to do anything but be a slug on the couch (among about a thousand other awesome things). And I really, really have nothing to complain about there at all. ^_^
So, yeah. There are worries and things, but I'm finally starting to see how blessed I am to have such an amazing life. And I say thank you to the universe every day for bringing everything together, one small piece at a time.
Mata ne.
I started "practicing gratitude" in November while I was doing a cleanse with my nutritionist. She's into holistic work, so part of the cleanse was cleansing negative attitudes or behaviors. I'm a creature of habit, habit, habit, and the behaviors, well, they're not completely overturned (it will take years to get rid of the habits I don't like, but I'm working on it). But I have found myself to be in a profoundly better mood these days than I have been in a long, long time. There are a number of factors that add to the feeling, but I think a huge part of it is that I've stopped looking at what I don't have.
I think we're sort of programmed to think about all of the things we don't have - clearer skin, shinier hair, flatter stomachs, faster cars, bigger houses, fairy-tale romances - and then spend tons of our hard-earned cash on stuff that might bring us closer to the these things. I can't think of a single marketing campaign that tells us to be satisfied with what we already have and who we are. But I think that telling ourselves every day what we like about who we are and what we have crowds out all of the negative messages we are bombarded with that tell us to constantly seek satisfaction elsewhere.
I have a job that I absolutely fucking love. Is it the "dream job"? No. But it is a job that gives me enough money to pay my bills and still have enough to do something nice for myself or for friends. And it's satisfying to my soul in a way that no other job I've had has been.
I live in a beautiful apartment that is starting to really feel like home. Is it a gigantic mansion with fifteen bedrooms, six baths and a tennis court? No. But it is cozy, and warm, and brightly painted, and full of books and music and crafting and laughter. And good cooking.
I am healthy, and finally have health insurance. Could I be healthier? Sure. I could probably have better health insurance, too, but for now, it is enough that I can go to the doctor if I need to (or want to!), and I am working on eating better and exercising more.
I have a family that supports me and all of my wacky shit. Are we supremely dysfunctional? Definitely. But who's family isn't, these days? All I need to know is that if shit goes down, my family will help me rebuild.
I am crafting every day. Do I get to spend as much time as I'd like crafting? No. But I am making time to do it every single day, which is a huge improvement over what I was doing before - a whole lot of nothing.
I have friends I love spending time with. Do I see them as often as I'd like? No. Some are too far away and some I've slowly lost touch with, but I'm making more of an effort to keep ties with the people who lift me up and whose company I truly enjoy. I love each and every one of them and I'm hugely glad that they are in my life.
I have a partner who is willing to listen when I speak, hold me when I cry, laugh with me at a stupid joke, take me on vacations, and cook amazing meals at night when I'm too tired to do anything but be a slug on the couch (among about a thousand other awesome things). And I really, really have nothing to complain about there at all. ^_^
So, yeah. There are worries and things, but I'm finally starting to see how blessed I am to have such an amazing life. And I say thank you to the universe every day for bringing everything together, one small piece at a time.
Mata ne.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Thinking About Titles
I keep looking at the title of this blog, and thinking about how poorly I've lived up to the "loving" part. Most of my posts are filled with cranky ravings about the things I don't like, rather than the things that bring me joy. No more.
I have these moments often - the ones where I realize that I'm putting way too much negative energy out into the world, with no real plan for addressing the problems that I see. I live in a city where I feel constantly bombarded by negative energies and rather than wearing my positive energy like a shield, I accept that negative energy, and worse, contribute to it. But I'm really making an effort to change that; I'm so tired of feeling... well, tired! And bitchy and aggressive. I know that I am perfectly entitled to feelings of a less positive nature (no one can be perfectly sunny all the time, of this I am convinced), but I am trying to work on how I deal with them.
One of the first steps I'm taking is changing my diet. More vegetables! Less refined sugar! And probably most important, smaller portion sizes! Maybe this sounds ridiculous, but I do believe that the food we choose to fuel our bodies with makes a difference in how we feel. I've tried, for the last month, to consume fewer refined sugars because I noticed that when I ate a lot of candy, I felt more depressed (I have an almost insatiable sweet tooth). Maybe it's a mind-over-matter thing, but I feel so much happier lately. So, sugar or no sugar, the effort to change my diet has definitely improved my mood (however, I refuse to give up ice cream, so that has become my refined-sugar-treat-at-the-end-of-the-day of choice).
I'm also just trying to focus on the good things that I have in my life - my friends and family, my home (beautiful!), my crafting, my job. All of these things that bring so much love and goodness to my tiny daily existence make it all seem so much more worthwhile. I'm going to try to journal more (in general), blog more (here, at Which Stitchery and Sacred Spiral Pottery), and in general be more present in my life and more intentional in what I say and do. I think a lot of this will involve listening. To myself, to others, to the Universe. Listening, and planning a little more, and maybe drinking more tea. ^.^
I feel so amazing today. I smell delicious (thank you, Etsy), I'm wearing clothes that make me feel like a gypsy (in the best possible way), and I got an email this morning from the New York Blood Center detailing where the blood I donated went to (so cool!). And I feel like I can do damn near anything. Perhaps when I get home tonight, I'll fix up my craft room proper so I can sew to my heart's content later this week.
And on that note, I'm going to go off and be a productive little bee. Enjoy this marvelous, beautiful summer day! ^_^
Dewa, mata.
I have these moments often - the ones where I realize that I'm putting way too much negative energy out into the world, with no real plan for addressing the problems that I see. I live in a city where I feel constantly bombarded by negative energies and rather than wearing my positive energy like a shield, I accept that negative energy, and worse, contribute to it. But I'm really making an effort to change that; I'm so tired of feeling... well, tired! And bitchy and aggressive. I know that I am perfectly entitled to feelings of a less positive nature (no one can be perfectly sunny all the time, of this I am convinced), but I am trying to work on how I deal with them.
One of the first steps I'm taking is changing my diet. More vegetables! Less refined sugar! And probably most important, smaller portion sizes! Maybe this sounds ridiculous, but I do believe that the food we choose to fuel our bodies with makes a difference in how we feel. I've tried, for the last month, to consume fewer refined sugars because I noticed that when I ate a lot of candy, I felt more depressed (I have an almost insatiable sweet tooth). Maybe it's a mind-over-matter thing, but I feel so much happier lately. So, sugar or no sugar, the effort to change my diet has definitely improved my mood (however, I refuse to give up ice cream, so that has become my refined-sugar-treat-at-the-end-of-the-day of choice).
I'm also just trying to focus on the good things that I have in my life - my friends and family, my home (beautiful!), my crafting, my job. All of these things that bring so much love and goodness to my tiny daily existence make it all seem so much more worthwhile. I'm going to try to journal more (in general), blog more (here, at Which Stitchery and Sacred Spiral Pottery), and in general be more present in my life and more intentional in what I say and do. I think a lot of this will involve listening. To myself, to others, to the Universe. Listening, and planning a little more, and maybe drinking more tea. ^.^
I feel so amazing today. I smell delicious (thank you, Etsy), I'm wearing clothes that make me feel like a gypsy (in the best possible way), and I got an email this morning from the New York Blood Center detailing where the blood I donated went to (so cool!). And I feel like I can do damn near anything. Perhaps when I get home tonight, I'll fix up my craft room proper so I can sew to my heart's content later this week.
And on that note, I'm going to go off and be a productive little bee. Enjoy this marvelous, beautiful summer day! ^_^
Dewa, mata.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Plugging for A Dear Friend...
So, a very dear friend of mine is very ill, and needs to have surgery in order to fix a recent complication of an already existing unidentified syndrome. Like so many of us, he has no health insurance, is unemployed, and this surgery is going to cost him lots and lots of dollars (estimates of $10,000 or more). He is a great person, and doesn't deserve to spend the next ten years paying off horrendous bills, and I'd like to help ease the cost for him. I am coming to all of you with this because you're awesome, and I know there are so many generous hearts out there. I know the Christmas crunch is approaching, but if it's possible for you to buy some delicious Nessa-lovin' to help me help my friend out, it would be appreciated so, so much.
For $10, you'll be able to choose from a bunch of different cookies (peanut butter or chocolate chip, gingerbread cookies are $15 due to ingredients), candy (toffee), and fudge (plain, peanut butter, or mint) all baked and cooked up by me, put in a box/plastic container, and decorated with whatever stickers I have lying around at the time. ^_^;
**Anyone who doesn't live within delivery/pick up distance, I will happily mail you your baked goods!
If you are able and willing, please donate to John directly by visiting his website here. If you want to read about this issue in John's own (delectable) words, visit this page. And finally, if you just want to skip all the hullaballo and just get to the donatin', please click here and throw John some love.
Of course, I completely understand if folks aren't in a position to spend money, so your good thoughts for John's safe recovery are more than welcome. His surgery is next Friday, the 20th, if you want to send out good energy on a specific day!
Thanks for reading guys... any help is welcome! Spread the word! Comment or send me an email at prettypagan [at] gmail [dot] com if you're interested in the baked goods!
Blessed Be!
For $10, you'll be able to choose from a bunch of different cookies (peanut butter or chocolate chip, gingerbread cookies are $15 due to ingredients), candy (toffee), and fudge (plain, peanut butter, or mint) all baked and cooked up by me, put in a box/plastic container, and decorated with whatever stickers I have lying around at the time. ^_^;
**Anyone who doesn't live within delivery/pick up distance, I will happily mail you your baked goods!
If you are able and willing, please donate to John directly by visiting his website here. If you want to read about this issue in John's own (delectable) words, visit this page. And finally, if you just want to skip all the hullaballo and just get to the donatin', please click here and throw John some love.
Of course, I completely understand if folks aren't in a position to spend money, so your good thoughts for John's safe recovery are more than welcome. His surgery is next Friday, the 20th, if you want to send out good energy on a specific day!
Thanks for reading guys... any help is welcome! Spread the word! Comment or send me an email at prettypagan [at] gmail [dot] com if you're interested in the baked goods!
Blessed Be!
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